So the writer and talent manager did the next best thing: he wrote a brutally honest obituary to let them know that his “tall Jewish redneck” mother had passed away.
“The bawdy, fertile, red-haired matriarch of a large red-haired Judeo-Mexican-American family hit him,” begins Andy Corren. “… There will be a lot of mourning in the many glamorous places she went bankrupt: McKeesport, PA, Renay’s birthplace and where she fell in love with ham and atheism; Fayetteville and Kill Devil Hills, NC, where Renay’s dreams, credit rating, and marriage are all buried; and of course Miami, Florida, where the parents, uncles, aunts and undying hopes of Miami Dolphins fans around the world are buried deep enough. “
He explains in detail his complex life and his love for weekly manicures, colorful jokes, rolling joints and dirty magazines. He jokingly described her as a supermom and “perfect ATP woman,” then quickly recanting. “HA! HA! HA! I’m kidding everyone!” He wrote.
The goal was to paint an accurate picture of a woman who was not perfect, but who was living an authentic life to the fullest, says Corren, who lives in New York City. The obituary has been shared widely on social media, and he hopes she teaches the world to celebrate women like his mother.
“Most women like Renay are not respected. Either they were too fat, too poor or too old. They are made to feel invisible and they are not invisible,” Corren told CNN. “My job was easy, I just reported the facts.”
He wrote the obituary on his mother’s last days
Corren wrote the obituary at her mother’s bedside as she died of advanced diabetes and sepsis. He shared some of the lines with her before her death.
“She laughed. As a writer writing for an audience, it was very satisfying,” he says. “I didn’t think anyone was going to read it. I really thought it was going to be rejected. I was shocked that it was even printed.”
She is survived by her five sons and other family members, not all of whom were surprised by the obituary. “Knowing her and me, they know that fits the brand,” says Corren.
Renay Mandel Corren spent her last days surrounded by her loved ones. She had been unconscious for two weeks, but regained consciousness and was in a good mood on the last day. The family played their favorite sounds and talked about their favorite food: the casino background music and the beef tongue deli sandwiches, respectively.
Although she is – in Corren’s words “a talented and outgoing con artist” and spent her last years “under the care, compassion, checking accounts and, of course, the limitless patience of her son and her favorite stepdaughter “she loved, caring and welcoming to everyone.
“It wasn’t a simple parenting experience. Neither parent had a lot of training to be parents themselves. They tried their best, which wasn’t good at all,” he says. “When you have a parent who is not traditional, chaos is part of the picture. But she was a great friend, she was a magnetic force. She might not have had the greatest maternal instinct, but she did. had the ability to transcend all differences. “
The family will hold a memorial for Renay Mandel Corren in Fayetteville, North Carolina on May 10 on what would have been his 85th birthday. Before moving to El Paso to live with her son, she worked and lived in Fayetteville and formed a close relationship, Corren says.
He received offers to write obituaries
Since the obituary went viral, Corren has received offers to write obituaries for other people.
“I’m going to have to change my outgoing message to say, ‘It’s Andy. And no, I can’t write your obituary.’ I understand why people relate to this – there is a moving need to be understood and for our stories to be told in a way that sums up the ups and downs, the joys and disappointments. I understand the demands, c ‘is very nice, ”he said. said.
“But I won’t write your obituary.”
Renay Mandel Corren was an avid reader and taught her son the value of reading. Writing an honest story about his life was the perfect farewell, Corren says.
What would she think of the popularity of the obituary? She didn’t believe in the afterlife, Corren said. That’s why she lived her life to the fullest.